My cold, control freak husband loves his garden more than me [Scot Region]

• Published in: Daily mail (London, England)
• Main Author: Mooney, Bel
• Format: Newspaper Article
• Language: English
• Published: London (UK) Solo Syndication, a division of Associated Newspapers Ltd 23.01.2010
• ISSN: 0307-7578

Woe betide me if I'm 'caught out'. I'll often hear him say: 'It's all right for you, I have to work', as if what I do isn't important. I'm constantly being hauled up over minor things and I really hate it. I've tried to tell him how I feel, but he says I'm being over-sensitive. Five years ago I was diagnosed with depression, but manage fairly well. But, as with any problem, everyone thinks that when you behave a certain way, then it's the illness talking, and not you, which causes me immense frustration. I tried counselling via Relate a few years ago, but there was little they could do without my husband's involvement. I don't want to meet anyone else; I want to sort out this marriage -- but I don't know how. I've obviously tried to talk to my husband, but find it hard to control my feelings and it usually turns into a row. He thinks I'm always criticising, so I'm at a loss as to how best to approach this whole subject. How can this be, considering I'm an intelligent woman? Why not be brave and show him this page? He'll be shocked -- but he can't dismiss you if you're so unhappy that you've written to a stranger for advice.