SENIOR FORUM / When Grown-Up Kids Come Home NASSAU AND SUFFOLK Edition

DEAR SENIOR FORUM: Considering all the things I've done over the years and all the things I've been in my life, I will be a mother longer than anything else (my husband died many years ago). And so when my 29-year-old son asked if he could move back home for awhile, I greeted him warmly on...

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Published inNewsday
Main Author Kent Collins. This is Kent Collins' last column for Newsday. Saul Friedman, whose Gray Matters has alternated with Senior Forum, will write weekly beginning next Saturday
Format Newspaper Article
LanguageEnglish
Published Long Island, N.Y Newsday LLC 15.02.1997
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Summary:DEAR SENIOR FORUM: Considering all the things I've done over the years and all the things I've been in my life, I will be a mother longer than anything else (my husband died many years ago). And so when my 29-year-old son asked if he could move back home for awhile, I greeted him warmly on the front porch. He's been here a year and a half now. I suspect he'll move out soon. And though we've run afoul of each other occasionally in the kitchen and in our emotions, I am glad we've had this time together. He's probably stronger for it, and I am certainly more confident about my child-raising work. Parents kind enough to take in an adult child, should also consider: The intrusion will bruise your sense of independence; problems that led the child to flee to you will not stay behind, but come along; house rules, including the sharing of expenses and chores, will protect you (a carefully explained trial period of a few months can be extended).