You are not as Cute as you Think you are: Emotional Responses to Expectancy Violations in Heterosexual Online Dating Interactions

Dating initiation is a challenging phase of heterosexual romantic relationship development, with men and women often having different expectations and interpretations of communicative cues. With online dating becoming increasingly popular, the challenges of relationship initiation are more apparent...

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Published inSex roles Vol. 82; no. 9-10; pp. 622 - 632
Main Authors DelGreco, Maria, Denes, Amanda
Format Journal Article
LanguageEnglish
Published New York Springer US 01.05.2020
Springer Nature B.V
Subjects
Behavioral Science and Psychology
Dating
Dating services
Emotional Response
Females
Gender Studies
Harassment
Heterosexuality
Internet
Medicine/Public Health
Original Article
Psychological Patterns
Psychology
Responses
Romantic relationships
Sexual Orientation
Sociology
Undergraduate students
Violations
Women
Sexual harassment
Online dating
Compliments
Expectancy violations theory
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Summary:Dating initiation is a challenging phase of heterosexual romantic relationship development, with men and women often having different expectations and interpretations of communicative cues. With online dating becoming increasingly popular, the challenges of relationship initiation are more apparent and may even lead to negative interpersonal interactions, such as online harassment. The present investigation employed expectancy violations theory to understand and explain perceptions of women’s responses to compliments in an online dating context. We predicted that due to general as well as gender-specific expectations for compliments and responses, when such expectations are violated, conflict and emotional reactions would arise. Using a sample of 413 U.S. undergraduate students, results indicated that women who negatively violate expectations by responding to a compliment using self-praise and agreement were generally evaluated more negatively than women who violated expectations in a positive way by disagreeing with the compliment and women who conformed to expectations by responding with “thank you.” Additionally, results showed that women who positively violated expectations were evaluated more negatively compared to women who conformed to expectations. Implications for expectancy violations theory and power in gendered online interactions are discussed.
ISSN:0360-0025
1573-2762
DOI:10.1007/s11199-019-01078-0